Today I became Stella!
Been trying out androgynous looks lately - well, i have
blogged about it before. This is the latest which I have worn out - notably to
work.
But today was a landmark day in my life as it was the day
that I finally outed myself to my flatmate. Who is also my landlord. Now I
fully intend to be Stella at home all the time. All the time....
The outing wasn't quite as epochal as all that.. I've posted
a bit on Facebook about it - which he's seen and he'd already worked out that i
had a "secret" wardrobe... even caught me dressed on one occasion.
what was new though was my coming out as trnasgnder, not a simple
cross-dresser, he was surprised that I was seeking gender reassignment, but
very supportive all the same. I got lots of questions from him about that...
It'll take some time getting used to it - I'm still very
nervous to be dressed openly. although the least girly my clothes the better i
can handle it.
Everything happens for a reason and this has been one long
process of things happening just as they are supposed to happen. Me being free
to be Stella at the start of the year, last summer's opportunity to go out
dressed with my then girlfriend, and her more than positive acceptance of me
being dressed whenever i wanted to in her presence...then my trip to Wales to
meet J. who treated me entirely as a woman, as a friend. It's the first time I
ever had a relationship (in the broadest sense, as the word also includes
friendship) with a woman that did not involve me being male, and my maleness
being my defining factor.
Also the friendships I struck up with t-girls along the way
has been invaluable. There's nothing like getting out there.. and only a T-girl
can give you the right balance between approval and reality check!!
Even my weight loss has come along at exactly the right
time. though I've had to shed a lot of clothes, I probably needed to anyway as
my wardrobe was - shall we say - eccentric to say the least. Now I buy with a
view to wearing out in the real world. No more Liz Indoors. now I'm super
Stella!!!
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